After several years of keeping LHWYCO running, I have decided that my energies are better spent on the ministry that God has given me right here where I live. Besides, there are many places to get encouragement of this sort. My prayer for every husband is that they will work daily at loving their wives as Christ loves the church. May the Lord pile on grace in your marriages.
When it comes to confusing aspects of women, none can be more baffling than a woman’s relationship with her desserts. They love ’em and they hate ’em! They can’t stay away, but they hate the effects of too many delectable delights. I remember as a young man my father telling me that if my wife wanted a second piece of cake, she should be able to have a second piece of cake without condemnation from me. I’m not sure exactly what point he was trying to make, but I’m guessing he learned that particular lesson (like most of us learn our lessons) the hard way!
This week, treat you wife to dessert. Maybe it is homemade cookies or a pie you pick up at the grocery store on your way home. Perhaps you will have the opportunity to take her out for dessert – maybe even The Melting Pot! But you won’t be successful if you are not in tune with your wife. If she is doing really well on her diet, don’t put her in a place of temptation. There are plenty of healthy desserts. You will just have to do some homework. But that’s the point, isn’t it? Research and study your wife so that you can better fulfill one of the great commands of husbandry – live with your wife in an understanding way.
This was supposed to have been published last week. Great song with great lyrics.
Ok, so it’s not all fun and games. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put effort into the fun and games part of your marriage. A good card or board game can stimulate conversation and reconnect you with your spouse. Think of a relaxing game of Wii golf or bowling to keep things lively! Pick a night this week to dedicate to some fun and games with your lovely bride. Who knows, this might just take you back to the dating years where competition was more about enjoying each other than beating each other! Game on!
Pick a song out that will communicate your heart to your wife and get it to her. You can e-mail it, sing it or make her a ‘mix-tape’. But whatever you do, put some effort into it. Songs you shared in the past are great, but maybe a song from her past that means something to her. And it is not all about the song. Just like food, presentation is important.
I took some time yesterday to think about all that I have learned from my father(s). We all have a biological father, but we also have others who have spoken into our lives as fathers. I have been taught what it means to work hard, think scripturally, respect women, laugh much, enjoy life and love God. What have your fathers taught you? If you haven’t already, take a moment to reflect on this and then share it with your wife. Speak to her of men and moments that she may or may not have heard before. And in doing so, invite her into your heart and soul.
Every morning my wife and I have a routine. The order of events may vary, but inevitably we end up with our bibles and coffee. And even though we are both reading and/or praying, we always manage to get a few minutes of conversation in. You and your wife may be tea drinkers or abstainers, but do not discount the routine moments in your life that carry great significance for your wife. What we as husbands may call routine our wives will call essential. Examine your daily routine and spot the times that are significant for your wife and then maximize them. Or you may need to insert regular moments that will become essential. Just take the time to think about what would make them essential and them implement them in a way that is, well, routine.
If you are like me, you probably think many wonderful things – about your friends, job, situations and even your wife. But if you are like me, you probably don’t voice them nearly as often as you should. The key is creating the habit of speaking words that encourage and edify. Make a point to speak words of love and encouragement into your spouse’s life every day this week. Lord willing, this will be the start of a habit that will help to transform your marriage.
Whether you are frustrated, rejoicing or apathetic, there is a healing and peace-inducing power that comes with praying for your wife. Take special time everyday this week to pray for your wife specifically. If you do not know what to pray, you may have to spend some time talking with your wife – another good exercise!
Leave you wife an encouraging note in a place she is sure to find it. The key to this task is to understand your wife well enough to have the note you leave actually be encouraging. This means you have to be up-to-date with her and what is going on in her life. Hint: positive words combined with Scripture are awesome!