What’s in your Eye?!

Matthew 7:3 is a very familiar passage:

“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own?”

We all have shortcomings, but I would encourage you to examine your life for hypocrisy.  Do you expect a higher standard from your wife than the one you hold yourself to?  Study the passage in Matthew and prayer over it.  When the Holy Spirit reveals an area in your life that you have been holding onto a double standard, confess it to God and your wife. And then work out a plan of change with your wife – as you will need her encouragement towards change.

As you work out your own salvation, you will be better suited to encourage you wife to work out hers!

Published in: on 26 July 2010 at 07:59  Leave a Comment  

Don’t Be Condemned!

George Santayana said, “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”  Learn from your past!

Engage your wife in a conversation regarding the following questions.  Not only will it open great avenues of communication, but it may give you insight into some unmet expectations on both parts.

1.  What areas of your marriage do you feel you could have used more pre-marital information?     (i.e. finances, in-laws, leadership, etc.)

2.  If you could go back to the beginning of your marriage, what things would you do different?  Or to put it another way, if you wanted to pass on a piece of experiential wisdom to a new married couple, what would it be?

3.  At what point in your marriage did you first realize that it might not be exactly like you first thought it would?  Or, when did you first begin to awaken to the amount of work marriage would be?

Published in: on 12 July 2010 at 08:00  Leave a Comment  

Word Up!

Take some time this week to get into the Word with your bride.  This is the time of year where life can get very hectic.  Don’t let the fast pace of summer and vacation keep you from being in the Word or taking your wife to the Word. Whether it is a full blown Bible study or just reading a passage together, make the effort to make it happen.  If our priority as Husbands is to be able to present our Bride as holy, we have to take them to the Word to help affect that change – not to mention the life changing effect it will have on our own lives.

Published in: on 7 July 2010 at 13:20  Leave a Comment