Pray, Pray, Pray

Here we go again.  No, this is not a filler post.  Prayer in your marriage is foundational.  Without a consistent time of prayer with your spouse, you will not be as effective of a leader as you want to be, achieve the level of intimacy you both desire or conform your lives to the image of Christ as efficiently as you could otherwise.  Pray with your wife this week everyday. Take the time to enrich your marriage by taking your relationship to the Lord together.

Published in: on 30 August 2010 at 08:10  Leave a Comment  

Bare Your Chest . . . I mean Heart

Most of our wives would give anything to know what is on/in our hearts at any given moment.  The problem with most of us is that we don’t often care to share – or at least share very deeply.  I know this varies with each couple, but I have a feeling that it could improve for all of us.  Of course, to do this we have to know our own hearts.

So here is an easy step into that process.  Ask your wife to watch one of your favorite movies with you and share with her why you like it so much.  You may want to share before or during or after the movie, but use it as a time to open up and let your wife see what makes you tick.  And your wife may already know why you like it, but hearing it from you will bless her (and it may help you understand yourself a bit!)

One note:  be aware not to offend your wife’s sensibilities.   Gross-out humor or horror flicks may actually offend her and that would be counter-productive to encouraging her towards Christ-likeness as much as it would be for you!

Published in: on 23 August 2010 at 06:45  Leave a Comment  
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Dad Life

I laugh every time I watch this!

Published in: on 21 August 2010 at 20:56  Leave a Comment  
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Do (the Gospel) Unto Others

I’ve been reading J. Gresham Machen’s book Christianity & Liberalism the past few days.  He makes an excellent point regarding the Sermon on the Mount.  When Jesus proclaimed the truth that we should do to others as we would have them do to us, He gave the command in the context of the Gospel.  This is not some moral reform formula.  Following this truth outside of the realm of the Gospel leaves men enabling each other in their sin or performing acts of kindness out of selfishness – looking for a return on their investment.  But within the Gospel context, humility and selflessness reign.

Now we apply this command to our marriages.  Paul wrote in his letter to the church at Ephesus that the role of the husband is to encourage his wife toward holiness.  In that same passage (Ephesians 5:25-29) he lays out the ‘how’ to doing that – by loving our wives as we love our own bodies!  Sound familiar?  But read the passage again and look at the context.  This is a Gospel doing!  My own tendency is to do for my wife so that she will do for me!  This is not the Gospel.

Love your wife this week by doing unto her within the context of the Gospel. This will require humility, selflessness and God’s grace.  Custom-fit your service for your spouse and may your sole (or soul) goal be to encourage her towards Christ-likeness.

Published in: on 16 August 2010 at 08:34  Leave a Comment  
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Get Passionate!

In Psalm 28:2, David cried out this way:

Hear the voice of my pleas for mercy,
when I cry to you for help,
when I lift up my hands
toward your most holy sanctuary.

Pray with your wife this week in a passionate way.  This may sound like a strange task, but ask yourself if your prayers are typically passionate.  We often think of passion in the context of marriage, but what about in the context of our marital prayers? Perhaps  you could read through some of the prayer Psalms with your wife as a way to get things rolling.

Published in: on 9 August 2010 at 07:20  Leave a Comment  

Wife vs. Husband

A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.

An earlier discussion had led to an argument and

neither of them wanted to concede their position.

As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,

The husband asked sarcastically, ‘Relatives of yours?’

‘Yep,’ the wife replied, ‘in-laws.’

Thanks to Tim for the laugh!

Published in: on 3 August 2010 at 13:26  Leave a Comment  

Sweat, Brothers!

In 1 Timothy 4:8, Paul talks about the greater value of godliness over physical fitness.  But in doing so, he does allow for the benefits of exercise.  Encourage your wife this week towards some exercise.  Different women have different attitudes towards the idea of exercise.  For some, a great cardio workout is walking to the bathroom between General Hospital and Ryan’s Hope. Others may not break a sweat until  halfway through the third consecutive P90X workout!  Wherever your wife happens to land, talk some time to encourage her.  Be wise in doing so, though.  For the less motivated, it may be as simple as suggesting a family walk in the evening.  If you are the one a little less disciplined in the area of exercise, perhaps you could make a concerted effort to join your bride in her routine.  Or it may just be that you tell her how great you think she is for putting effort into keeping her body conditioned and healthy.

Published in: on 2 August 2010 at 06:30  Leave a Comment  
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