It’s All Fun and Games

Ok, so it’s not all fun and games.  But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put effort into the fun and games part of your marriage.  A good card or board game can stimulate conversation and reconnect you with your spouse.  Think of a relaxing game of Wii golf or bowling to keep things lively!  Pick a night this week to dedicate to some fun and games with your lovely bride.  Who knows, this might just take you back to the dating years where competition was more about enjoying each other than beating each other!  Game on!

Published in: on 11 July 2011 at 07:54  Leave a Comment  
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Send a song

Pick a song out that will communicate your heart to your wife and get it to her.  You can e-mail it, sing it or make her a ‘mix-tape’.  But whatever you do, put some effort into it.  Songs you shared in the past are great, but maybe a song from her past that means something to her.  And it is not all about the song.  Just like food, presentation is important.

Published in: on 27 June 2011 at 09:26  Leave a Comment  
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I took some time yesterday to think about all that I have learned from my father(s).  We all have a biological father, but we also have others who have spoken into our lives as fathers.  I have been taught what it means to work hard, think scripturally, respect women, laugh much, enjoy life and love God.  What have your fathers taught you?  If you haven’t already, take a moment to reflect on this and then share it with your wife.  Speak to her of men and moments that she may or may not have heard before.  And in doing so, invite her into your heart and soul.

Published in: on 20 June 2011 at 06:37  Leave a Comment  
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Pray for Her

Whether you are frustrated, rejoicing or apathetic, there is a healing and peace-inducing power that comes with praying for your wife.  Take special time everyday this week to pray for your wife specifically.  If you do not know what to pray, you may have to spend some time talking with your wife – another good exercise!

Published in: on 23 May 2011 at 07:56  Leave a Comment  
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Love Notes

Whether it is by text, e-mail, snail-mail or sticky note, let your wife know how much you love her with a ‘love note’ at least 5 times this week.  What more needs to be said, right?  🙂

Published in: on 11 April 2011 at 09:27  Leave a Comment  
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Using Your Tongue

I was kindly reminded by a dear friend this morning that my words regarding my wife should always be edifying.  No brainer – right?  And yet, at a dinner party this past Saturday I spoke carelessly.  My friend’s admonition allowed me to 1.) see a point of pride in my life and 2.) talk with my wife about my words.  The good thing is that she did not take offense at what I said and we are great.  The bad thing is that words, poorly spoken, will impact each hearer differently.  What you say may not be offensive to everyone, but what your words communicate is more than just mechanical interpretation.  (And the truth is that my words, though not directly offensive to my wife, were spoken out of a spirit that was not right.)  So I thank my friend for his willingness to confront me and for providing post material that does not so often come with such ease!

Talk with your wife this week about 1.) how your speech may consistently offend her (especially in public) and 2.) how you can improve your verbal love and respect for her.  Do all of this in light of Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29 ESV)

Published in: on 21 March 2011 at 08:13  Leave a Comment  
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Read to her.

Communication is fundamental to a strong marriage relationship, and there are a thousand ways to communicate.  This week, find something that you have read (or are currently reading) and read it to her with the intent to stimulate conversation.  If you don’t talk much, any conversation is a step in the right direction.  But ultimately, we want our conversations to encourage our wife towards Christlikeness.  So whether you are a reader or not, find something to share with your sweetie that will bless her and strengthen your love for each other.

Published in: on 28 February 2011 at 08:02  Leave a Comment  
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Talk it out.

How did last week go?  I know how hard it can be to talk with your spouse about areas where you see room for improvement.  Grace and humility are key.  I think it would be good this week to spend some time soaking in and memorizing Ephesians 4:29. Once you’ve done that, finish off any leftover business from last week.  It may be that you will have the opportunity to apologize for being insensitive or just open yourself up to some constructive criticism.  Either way, keep talking.

Published in: on 24 January 2011 at 08:02  Leave a Comment  
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Stop, Look and Listen

This week’s assignment is simple in concept, but for most men difficult in application.  Carry on a conversation with your wife everyday of the week this week.  There are three key elements to a good conversation with your wife.

1. Stop.  Turn off the TV, lower the paper, close the book and walk away from the computer.  Let your wife be your only focus.

2. Look.  Make eye contact and do not be distracted by passing cars or the fly on the wall.

3. Listen.  Don’t just hear the noises coming out of her mouth, but engage your brain and respond accordingly.

You will be amazed at how much you can learn by good communication with your wife!

Published in: on 15 November 2010 at 15:12  Leave a Comment  
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Make a list and check it twice

Take some time this week to make a list of 20 tasks that you could incorporate into your relationship with your spouse to communicate your love better.  Here’s the beauty of this: you have to know  your wife and what makes her tick to be successful in this endeavor. Make your list, check it twice and then implement it randomly into your routine.

Published in: on 10 October 2010 at 12:16  Leave a Comment  
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